This memorial website was created in the memory of our loved one, Frank DeVoy who was born in Michigan on February 10, 1972 and passed away on December 01, 2006 at the age of 34. We will remember him forever.
Please share your memories of Frank with us. He gave the best hugs.........hugs that made you feel like he never wanted to let go...... 




"The time came when the pain it took to stay,
was greater than the pain it took to go"
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"A person is not dead..........until he is forgotten"









Please See Me through My Tears
Kelly Osmont

You asked, "How are you doing?"
As I told you, tears came to my eyes…
and you looked away and quickly began to talk again.
All the attention you had given me drained away.
"How am I doing? I do better when people listen,
though I may shed a tear or two.
This pain is indescribable.
If you’ve never known it you cannot fully understand.
Yet I need you.
When you look away, when I am ignored,
I am again alone with it.
Your attention means more than you can ever know.
Really, tears are not a bad sign, you know!
They’re nature’s way of helping me to heal…
They relieve some of the stress of sadness.
I know that you fear that asking how I’m doing brings me sadness...
but you’re wrong.
The memory of my loved one’s death will always be with me,
only a thought away.
My tears make my pain more visible to you,
but you did not give me the pain…
it was already there.
When I cry, could it be that you feel helpless,
not knowing what to do?
You are not helpless,
and you don’t need to do a thing but be there.
When I feel your permission to allow my tears to flow,
you’ve helped me.
You need not speak.
Your silence as I cry is all I need.
Be patient…do not fear.
Listening with your heart to "how I am doing"
relieves the pain,
for when the tears can freely come and go,
I feel lighter.
Talking to you releases what I’ve been wanting to say aloud,
clearing space for a touch of joy in my life.
I’ll cry for a minute or two…
and then I’ll wipe my eyes,
and sometimes you’ll even find I’m laughing later.
When I hold back the tears,
my throat grows tight, my chest aches, my stomach knots…
because I’m trying to protect you from my tears.
Then we both hurt…
me, because my pain is held inside,
a shield against our closeness…
and you, because suddenly we’re distant.
So please, take my hand and see me through my tears…
then we can be close again.





IF I KNEW
By: Anonymous Author

If I knew it would be the last time
That I'd see you fall asleep,
I would tuck you in more tightly
and pray the Lord, your soul to keep.
If I knew it would be the last time
that I see you walk out the door,
I would give you a hug and kiss
and call you back for one more.
If I knew it would be the last time
I'd hear your voice lifted up in praise,
I would video tape each action and word,
so I could play them back day after day.
If I knew it would be the last time,
I could spare an extra minute
to stop and say "I love you,"
instead of assuming you would KNOW I do.
If I knew it would be the last time
I would be there to share your day,
Well I'm sure you'll have so many more,
so I can let just this one slip away.
For surely there's always tomorrow
to make up for an oversight,
and we always get a second chance
to make everything just right.
There will always be another day
to say "I love you,"
And certainly there's another chance
to say our "Anything I can do?"
But just in case I might be wrong,
and today is all I get,
I'd like to say how much I love you
and I hope we never forget
Tomorrow is not promised to anyone,
young or old alike,
And today may be the last chance
you get to hold your loved one tight.
So if you're waiting for tomorrow,
why not do it today?
For if tomorrow never comes,
you'll surely regret the day,
That you didn't take that extra time
for a smile, a hug, or a kiss
and you were too busy to grant someone,
what turned out to be their one last wish.
So hold your loved ones close today
and whisper in their ear,
Tell them how much you love them
and that you'll always hold them dear
Take time to say "I'm sorry,"
"Please forgive me," "Thank you," or "It's okay."
And if tomorrow never comes,
you'll have no regrets about today. 




















PRECIOUS CHILD

Words and Music by Karen Taylor-Good

In my dreams, you are alive and well
Precious child, precious child
In my mind, I see you clear as a bell
Precious child, precious child
In my soul, there is a hole
That can never be filled
But in my heart, there is hope
'Cause you are with me still

In my heart, you live on
Always there never gone
Precious child, you left too soon
Tho' it may be true that we're apart
You will live forever... in my heart

In my plans, I was the first to leave
Precious child, precious child
But in this world, I was left here to grieve
Precious child, my precious child

In my soul, there is a hole
That can never be filled
But in my heart there is hope
And you are with me still

In my heart you live on
Always there, never gone
Precious child, you left too soon,
Tho' it may be true that we're apart
You will live forever... in my heart

God knows I want to hold you,
See you, touch you
And maybe there's a heaven
And someday I will again
Please know you are not forgotten until then


In my heart you live on
Always there never gone
Precious child, you left too soon
Tho' it may be true that we're apart
You will live forever... in my heart

Background Music - "Precious Child" - Karen Taylor-Good 











  

IF TEARS COULD BUILD A STAIRWAY, AND MEMORIES A LANE, I'D WALK RIGHT UP TO HEAVEN AND BRING YOU HOME AGAIN......























My Mom, she tells a lot of lies She never did before.,
From now until she dies, She'll tell a whole lot more.
Ask my Mom how she is, And because she can't explain,
She will tell a little lie Because she can't describe the pain.
Ask my Mom how she is,
She'll say, "I'm alright",
If that's the truth, then tell me, why does she cry each night?
Ask my Mom how she is, She seems to cope so well.
She didn't have a choice you see nor the strength to yell.
Ask my Mom how she is, "
I'm fine, I'm well, I'm coping".
For God's sake Mom, just tell the truth just say your heart is broken.
She'll love me all her life, I loved her all of mine,
But if you ask her how she is, She'll lie and say she's fine.
I am Here in Heaven I cannot hug from here,
If she lies to you don't listen,
Hug her and hold her near.
On the day we meet again,
We'll smile and I'll be bold.
I'll say,You're lucky to get in here Mom With all the lies you told.

~ Author unknown~